September 05, 2007

THREE

1. Do you play a personal role in the process of getting guests onto your show? Call people yourself to invite them on, etc, or do others on the payroll handle that stuff for you?

There are a few ways of going about guests for the show. Sometimes Todd or I will call them and invite them directly as we did with Wes, Janice, KHZ and tomorrow's guest, Adam Goldberg. Other times we will just have an idea like, "What about a psychic or what about a U.F.O. expert? Let's get that Kelly person or that Sad Kermit guy!" In those cases, Riss will hunt them down. We also have a great booker at Mania who comes up with suggestions and will give us a list of potential guests. Todd and I have the final yay or nay on these. We also find guests through e-mail and/or receiving notification of someone's interest in being on the show.

2. Anyway going back to question #5 and your answer-Don't you believe you can't "change" other people, you can only change yourself?

Of course... That is why my suggestion was to present the option. You never know when a relationship is ready to grow or evolve unless you communicate respectfully. Willingness to experiment or look beyond what is a current pattern doesn't necessarily mean that the core of the person has to change. We can always stay who we are and continue to grow and expand our interests.

3. So, how do you feel about a spouse who cheats after 18 years of marriage? Then begs you not to leave and when things settle down, cheats again? Do you think people ever change as far as infidelity goes? I'm confused, should I stay or should I go?

Levels of forgiveness are really up to each individual. What may be recoverable to some, may not for others. Either way, regardless of your decision, a marital therapy session(s) would be a great thing to at least clear the air in a neutral environment. I definitely think that people can change if they want to and are willing to work on it.

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September 5, 2007 11:41 AM

Comments

Hello, Dave!

Have you ever had a perfect day? If not, what would it be?

IMHO - no one changes unless they want to. But maybe something you do makes them want to change - and isnn't that what life is about? Constant change?

Are you planning a themed halloween party for mania?

Always,
me

Posted by: Angel at September 5, 2007 11:53 AM

Ya know...
You keep this up and it looks like you'll be handling the "relationship" questions and Billy will have to answer the "sex" questions on CFR!

:-)

Posted by: Robin at September 5, 2007 12:14 PM

Dave..thanks for the answer to #2. You hit on something that my "other half" isn't realizing at this point...that just because i would like one thing to change/adapt...doesn't mean i want them to fundamentally change who they are. i love him for who he is...but i would like my wants satisfied as well...either by him, or if he is unwilling...by someone else.

Posted by: Nicole at September 5, 2007 01:47 PM

How about SRL or SE "Love Advice From Dave" uncensored episode, aye? I know ya do it on CFR but it gets interrupted by "sponsors or whatnot".

Anyway...
Q: Musician, Radio Host, TV Host, A Writer, and now to add to your belt, DIRECTOR. What could possibly be next for you Dave? Any clues for us?

Posted by: CallmeT at September 5, 2007 01:57 PM

Over the months of reading 6767 comments everyone appears 'normal', leading a fairly 'normal' life, leaving innocent enough comments on the internet....then a comment appears about their personal life and the problems they've had and, once again, I'm reminded that everyone has something under the surface. Are 'damaged' people attracted to 6767 because, you Dave have been fairly open about your battles, or are we all just damaged in some way? What is normal anyway?? In a bizarre and slightly disturbing way it's comforting to find that you are not alone. Stuff has gone on in my life (nothing horrendous but it's had a profound effect on me) that I would never discuss with anyone other than extremely close family or, sometimes, not even them....well bottled up and guarded! Perhaps that is why it is comforting to me to read it because I won't speak about it...........anyway this is far too deep! Aaahhh, attempted humour, my best defence mechanism.

Good couple of blogs recently! Happy Wednesday....SB

PS. Robin - Meow!! not for the above but from before!

Posted by: Sarah-B at September 5, 2007 02:09 PM

Dave, you're being a total big bro' - love you for it. Great answers. xoxox

Posted by: vixen at September 5, 2007 02:23 PM

Sarah-B...it's the whole anon. thing here for me. It's a "safe" place. i doubt Dave is going to be a judgmental ass-hat and i don't think any of the regulars are either.

Posted by: Nicole at September 5, 2007 02:39 PM